Wednesday, December 24, 2008
TOuching~~
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Trust
If there's one thing we know to be true it's this...
Relationships cannot grow or have a chance of becoming happy if there's no trust.
"3 Ways to Build Trust"
Trust is often taken for granted when it comes to intimate relationships. We trust-- or don’t trust-- that the agreements we’ve made with one another will be kept. These may include staying faithful to one another, continuing to deepen your connection, or “being there” for each other no matter what among other possible agreements..
But when we really look at the day to day lives we lead with our partner, is there really a strong sense of trust?
Weaknesses in trust can range from intense to more subtle. Perhaps-- with no real evidence to indicate it-- you worry about your partner cheating on you or maybe you doubt he or she will love you if you let your true self show. It could be that you regularly expect that your love will not follow through on a promised project or task. No matter where on the spectrum lack of trust falls, it gets in the way of your relationship being as intimate as it could be.
Consider this illustration…..
Imagine you are 50 ft. up in the air on a climbing wall with nothing keeping you from falling except a harness, rope and your climbing partner—or belayer—who stands on the ground holding that rope. From the top of the wall you gaze down at the ground and begin to wonder: How sturdy is this rope that is holding me up? Will my belayer prevent me from falling and get me down safely? Needless to say, vulnerable feelings and just a little bit of fear may come rushing in.
It is up to your belayer to pay attention to what you are doing and to adjust the rope accordingly. It is also up to you, the climber, to trust that you will be eased gently down the wall to the ground when you have reached the top. A distracted belayer could mean not only a bumpy ride down the wall, but also your safety in jeopardy. At the same time, an untrusting climber could hang indefinitely on the wall refusing to move. It is literally a leap of faith when you let go of the holds and allow yourself to be lowered down. Climber and belayer must work together, stay present, and communicate clearly so that the climbing experience will be enjoyable and not end up an emergency room visit!
So it goes with intimate relationships. It is not uncommon for one or both people to feel vulnerable and wonder whether or not the other person will be there when needed. Without trust in one another, intimacy cannot grow and your relationship can become stuck.
Try these 3 ways for creating trust and intimacy with your partner….
1. Let go of the past.
Almost every one of us has had a past relationship that left us feeling wary of loving or trusting anyone again. Tune into your current situation and allow yourself to move on from those old hurts. This may require acknowledging the ways that the past comes up for you in the present. Breathe and remind yourself to let go of the past and focus on what’s currently going on.
2. Be yourself.
Sometimes we hide habits, tendencies, even desires that are important to us because we don’t trust that our partner will approve of them. We undercut intimacy by keeping this barrier up to hide what we think won’t be loved. In effect, we don’t feel lovable as our true selves. Make it a goal to appreciate yourself—“warts” and all—and then allow every part of you to be seen by your partner. Chances are your love will be more accepting than you think.
3. Listen and understand.
Just as communicating is vital to the climber and belayer, it is also important to anyone wanting to increase intimacy in a love relationship. When situations come up that challenge your trust in the other person, stop and ask him or her questions about what appears to be happening. It is likely that your perceptions are not accurate. Listen with an open heart and allow yourself to understand what is going on for the other person.
These 3 ways can help you begin to turn a relationship weak in trust into one where strong trust fosters deeper intimacy. It starts with letting go, loving yourself, and listening with an open heart.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
IM FREAKING BORED NOW!!!
IM REALLY PISSED NOW!!!
SUPER ANNOYED!!!
Everyone is enjoying themselves while Im stuck at home, how great? Very!
playing games, having dinner together,playing basketball,skating.
Those are what I want and should be doing today!
Although I can like have my little karaoke session on my own in the toilet, pretend Im skating where I am actually roller blading, or even pretend to have a happy dinner, but whats the point?
Its sad!
Or even sound and look likes a kid?
Please please do let me know. I BADLY want to know this.
Or is it my joke came true?
Sigh
Its just sad.
I am a college student and I have to behave like a kindergarten or primary school kids.
Hey I bet some primary kids are already going out, running around with their cool gadgets like hand phones, PSP, Ipods or MP3 player, branded clothes and everything.
Kids nowadays are luckier than I am eh? *ENVY*
Yeah I agree in a way but how would you feel if u are over protected?
That totally sucks.
I should have a limit or at least a number or privacy and freedom at the age of 18.
Not only at the age of 18, everyone deserves to have their own rights to freedom!!
I know my limits; I even arrange everything, plan everything and inform every single detail about my outings whenever I have one.
Its so unfair!!! I did all Im suppose to do!
How would people grow and gain knowledge from something new since everything is well measured? How will you learn?
I dont mind having strict parents but over protective is way too crazy for me to accept.
Everything happen for a reason?
How IF there is just no proper or explainable reason?
Or Am I going insane?
The only feeling that you actually feel...
The only word that describe how you feel...
Is solely...
Regrets...
But when you actually do feel such way...
It's just too late to do anything...
There's no turning back...
No way(s) of reversing things done...
Too late to even feel regret!
The only solution to this,
Is to just move on,
To move forward and forget bout the past...
Till then, hope for the best for everyone!
May God bless everyone!
(^_^)
For you, mutual respect is of utmost importance. You are comfortable and confident in your own skin, making you a great pillar of strength in all your relationships. Whether he's striving to climb a mountain or land a promotion, you have his back. Best part is, you know he's got yours too.
What Kind of Girlfriend Are You?
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
~ HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MYSELF. =P
But definitely young at heart!!
I finally reach the last year of my teen life.
Wooh...so fast!!! (^_^)
Last day before my birthday, I went out with my dear to One Utama to celebrate because my dear will off to Ipoh (her Hometown)..+ =)
In short, all my friends and people who matters to me,
Gathered together for my birthday.
(Well I do hope they really intended to celebrate with me.
They better be! =P
And of course to have fun at the same time…)
Thanks a lot again people!!! Heart you people ~
I appreciate it a lot!
Love all of u guys lots..
Thanks for making my day memorable.
Rushing to get this done actually.
Will elaborate more during the weekend.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Monday, November 10, 2008
Finally UPDATING`
I do love it when it rains, perfect weather to sleep… weee~~~
Been having all sort of mix feelings at the same time too.
Stress + emotional + worry + tired + sad + angry + depressed etc.
Home has seriously not been a very good place to be either.
It feels like I have been pushed hard onto the wall with no where else to run.
Like I have been stucked in the middle of no where…
I don't even feel like I am who I used to be...
During the class, almost everyone was blurting out answers with confidence
I am so so so soooooo BEHIND time.
Worst, I ONLY have 2 more weeks to accomplish my plans..Wish me luck k?
Back to studies… can't waste some more time…
OR
I'LL BE DEAD in less than 2 weeks time!
Have a great weekend people~!!
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Happy Extra 1 day Public holiday~
Today is a public holiday!!!
So 1 day holiday for everyone...
I wonder what plan(s) are in stored for me by my parents.
[Cross fingers, shopping can?]
Need to keep my mind OFF some issues and focus on relaxation. (while I still can!)
Sleep late, wake up late, eat late…worst comes to worst, my brain is functioning pretty slow and late also.
Gosh, I am seriously facing a major problem of short-term memory (In short, amnesia)
A minute I put down something, leave it there, go settle my other chores and when I return, I have no idea about where I last put my things.
This is such a bad thing and I really fell sad and annoyed.
Worst, staying home ALL ALONE is just sad~!
Monday, October 27, 2008
I would regret big time if I didn't turn up that day.
Those donuts are just YUMMMMMMMEY!!! =)
I still want more.... craving for more....
Why???
Cause I got to go out with my girlfriend, had J.CO donuts that I had been craving for weeks and even met up with 1 awesome friends!
We headed to Times Square for lunch at Shabu Shabu Train, then walked through Sg.Wang and Lot 10 (we met up with alvin here) to Pavilion (where we had J.CO donuts) and later walked back to Times Square and met up with 2 other friends.
… though still got slight uneasy feeling… but no worries. =)
HAPPY DEEPAVALI!!!!!~
>> Feel kinda sad I can't tag along for deepavali house hopping this year.
Will miss all the yummy yummy yummy food cook by Some Indian near by my house~~
Have a great week ahead people.... =)
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
It's a little wet cause of the heavy rain.
The feeling of the wind blowing against you is just great, isnt it?
Somehow, it is a happy thing that the haze is finally gone and once again, the baby blue sky with all the thick clouds is clearly visible.
And now,
Im gonna start hibernating to store up energy for tonight! =)tonight~~tonight~~
May all your wishe(S) come true *wink*
*I am sure you will enjoy yourself with us around, hehehe*
May God bless you always.
Hope everyone had a good Tuesday just like I do.
Happy happy, must keep this condition!!
Smile smile!!
Monday, October 20, 2008
GOsh.... *sad face*
Why can't it be longer for once?
Oh well,
Must face reality, its the 1st day of the week again! BOOoooOooo!
Time seems to be passing way way faster ever since I joinned the business programme.
Aiyo!
Am I that stuck up?
HOLIDAY(s) anyone??? I need a break, people. =)
No. of kids: 20++ of them (Aged between 4 to 12 years old)
(which includes myself, hehe) =P
Everyone was so co-operative and most importantly,
We ENJOYED and had FUN!
Shall get back to bed
Thursday, October 9, 2008
I was sneezing through out the night. I can at least sneeze up to 10 times non-stop.
Bless me , bless me.
Gosh. I thought i was going to get flu.
Luckily, yahoo, no sick and no flu!
Im really really glad as i just dislike to get sick.\
I am starting to feel so sick,
to feel all ill about life now.
There are just too many things cramming in my tiny little crappy brain or maybe it is just me who is thinking way too much.
Let's not rant and spoil the day.
Got wet in the rain+ deprived of sleep+ exam stress = SICK = cough= Wayne.
Although it is quite annoying to move around when it is raining, but I kind of enjoy it.
The rain brings such relaxing feeling which can actually make you fall asleep faster.
The feeling of looking out the window when it's raining is really relaxing as well.
Silver drops of water drip one after another.
Drip, Drip, and keeps dripping till the rain stops.
A clear blue sky will then be visible after the wonderful rain.
When it's raining, visions get blur,
Traffic jams are seen everywhere, and
People transform themselves into scary monsters, which are furious, angry
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Freedom and holidays at last!!!
I am officially done with my mid term
I am quite worry about the result, but I guess I shouldn't start worrying for nothing so fast, as the last paper was only a few days ago.
However, there will be some assignment need to be done from Monday till Wednesday.
Filled our stomach with Thai food,(OUCH!!That's SPicy)
Catch things up with each other,
Laughed our heads off,
I am grinning from ear to ear!!!
I feel loved!!!
I feel appreciated!!!
I feel lucky!!!
But I am tired......HE HE HE.
I get very emo trying to figure out who exactly I am
Do we really have to take into consideration each and everyone's feelings and not bother about your own feelings?
Can we actually manage to not offend or hurt anyone at all?
Its finally your turn to turn 17 years old.
Looks like it's coming to nearly 5 years since we know each other.
It is not exactly a long duration but it's not a short period of time as well.
I hope we will maintain this friendship as long as time permits. ^.
MAY ALL YOUR WISHES COME TRUE,
May you stay pretty, smart, HAPPY, cheerful, POsitive, sweet and lovely always,
Must always look at the bright side of everything gurl, although nothing is positive in this world,
Have a great day and enjoy yourself ya.
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
1st day of MiD Term Exam
So sorry, I took like ages to update one new entry.
Off I go to bed.......
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Ditagged By *Meng yee *
1. Each player of this game starts off with 15 weird things/habits/little known facts about yourself.
2. People who get tagged need to write a blog of their own 15 weird things/habits/little known facts as well as state this rule clearly.
3. At the end, you need to choose 10 people to be tagged and list their names.
4. No tags back!!
Monday, September 15, 2008
Late post
I shall be heading back to work.
More midnight oils to burn.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Tada Tada Tada
I love the weather today… its cold and windy… perfect day for driving!!& Basketball!!Dating as well!!
First of all, I’m back!!
I’ve been super busy with homework, essays and assignments.
So everyday, you will see one panda walking around the college, all deprived of sleep.
But I'm still a little depress over studies.
However, I'm working hard in it and I am not giving up!
Determination all high!!!
It’s just crazy. I really need the rest that I deserve today. (^_^)
Hmph, Sherynn just told me I got dinner tonight, luckily no homework today!!
Hehehe
Happy day everybody!! Have a nice day!!!
Cheers~!!
Friday, September 5, 2008
Saturday
Anyway, I am not considered as free now , just taking some time out to crap something here.
So sorry, I took like ages to update one new entry.
Whenever I reached home,
And I would like to apologize for not having the proper time to drop by everyone’s blog.
My bad, sorry!
Nothing special happened today. (Friday)
Thursday, September 4, 2008
JUst Being Random ~~
(How random!)
BUT, my fat arse just keeps getting stuck on any chair(s) in front of the computer and food!
Mid Term exam are in 3 weeks time..... **Slightly more than 3 weeks to be accurate.**
Weekends are the best days toostudy But,,
On both days,I was practically out of the house most of the time, and yes,
I did not touch the books again.NO to study! =(Such a failure!)
It's Thrusday again...Am really really very exhausted and tired!
Finally got the time to update my blog.
Computer programmes seem to be so attractive these days, I don't understand why...
do you know why? hehe
AND I 100% need to stop eating so much!
Why do I always feel hungry for no absolute reasons and feels like eating almost everything at one go? I am so tempted to eat whenever I see the sight of food.
CRAZY!Am I growing or what??
LOL. I definitely hope thats the reason.
(I wish to Grow Taller)
*GOD.Please Grant my wish!
CHeers~~
Thursday, August 28, 2008
Short Outing
After food,we proceeded to the library,attempting to study a little before attending the extra class.(Well, I failed! =D)=*SHerynn has the Taylor's Identity also..Wahaha**
The library was rather empty,and with such atmosphere,it is supposed to be a rather perfect place to studyBUT instead, I got rather tempted to go online instead. =P
[All computers were almost free! ]So i M here!!
HAPPY~~
Let's hope there will be more fun outings coming in the next few days. =)
CHeers~~
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
I FInally Updated My Blog
Poor blog, been dead for so long!
Sorry for not updating as i m now busying with my test,homework,GF**
There is no other better words to describe my current situation than the word,B.U.S.Y!..
I am supposed to be studying now for my test.*
(yes the book is wide open right beside of me)
But unfortunately, I got all distracted, like usual. HEHE.
All my power to study (like yesterday) shut down just like that.
>> Finally have the permission to go out/ drive out alone at night for dinner/gathering to somewhere far from home to meet up with my dear. [']We 're happy +fun+excited!We had a marvelous time together and it was just splendid being able to catch things up with each other.
~~ STUPID internet and MSN!
Been having problem logging in the entire night!Eventhough I managed to get connected for a few times, but not long later, I got dc again
I m DEAD>.I m DEAD>>TIred..
OK..~End oF Ranting.~~GOod NIght.!!CHeers~~